Lead with Love; for Yourself

I will never forget the feelings I had when I first came out. I felt free, I felt scared to death, I felt excited, I felt as if elephants were doing cartwheels in my stomach.

I was not young. I was thirty; yep, the big 30! What took me so long? I grew up in a very small town. My grandfather and my uncle were ministers. I was taught in youth group that being gay was, “like having sex with animals.” I didn’t have anyone else in my life that I knew that was gay and I knew intuitively that I wouldn’t be “allowed” to come out in my family. I deeply buried any thought that I could be gay. It was a long time before I gave myself permission to own my truth.

I played the game. I was a people pleaser, I went to church, I was the president of our youth group, I went to India to build a church; expecting to be a missionary. I went to a Christian College and received a BA in Theology and a teaching degree; expecting to be a youth minister in a church. I was kind, I acted happy; I wasn’t always….. happy.

I covered up so much which meant I had to put something in my life to block my truth. There were dark nights. I was suicidal. I made gestures. I became anorexic and suffered with bulimarexia. I was driven. I was a perfectionist. I was not like all the other girls. I knew I wasn’t. I didn’t know why.

Then it happened. I met her. She worked at the same graduate assistant office for the graduate program where we both worked. We became inseparable. We were soul mates. I still couldn’t own it….. until the day she was going to move out of the home we rented together because she was in love with me and couldn’t live there anymore.

That was my turning point. It scared me to death to think she would leave. I had to figure it out. My fear of losing her was greater than my fear of what religion had taught me, greater than the fear of how the world treated gay people, greater than the fear of how my family, friends, and coworkers would treat me.

It wasn’t easy. It was a long journey. I got help. I talked it out. I read an amazing book; Is the Homosexual MY Neighbor to look at different view of the damning scriptures I was taught. It was worth it. I finally had hope.

Living authentically, speaking my truth and walking my talk has opened my life up in amazing ways. Today, I am LEGALLY married to my soul mate; she never left. We have built an amazing life. We have deep respect and love for each other. I have transformed my pain and shame into authentic power. Homophobic statements, losing friends and family, not being hired for jobs does not detour me from living my truth. I AM created from love and I choose compassion and love as my guiding values. I know that I AM worthy to be seen, heard, valued, respected, and to have equal rights. I will ALWAYS STAND for Equality and Compassion.

To you, our youth; don’t give in, don’t give up. As the It Gets Better Project states… It GETS BETTER! Know that you are worthy. Know that you are uniquely you. Stay connected to people who reinforce this for you. Don’t allow the misinformed to take you out of your future. Lead with Love for Yourself! You matter! You can make it!

Love and Light, Midge

LGBTQ, Inner Love

In church, I was told that I was welcome in the church, although I was going to hell, because they “loved the sinner and not the sin.” In other words, they tolerated me but they didn’t accept me or believed that I was created this way.

In a world of hate, bigotry, and inequality….. love is sometimes hard to find. As a gay woman, I have felt the pain of bigotry and been devalued. So many years have been spent feeling unworthy. The inner homophobia was staggering and led to an eating disorder and contemplations of suicide.

It has taken years to fully embrace and embody my self love. I have learned to transform that pain and shame.

I have learned to claim my authentic power.

  • I AM exactly as I AM CREATED TO BE

I would love to have a conversation with you if you have ever felt this way. I welcome you to book your complimentary coaching call today. You too are worthy of all good things in your life.

I Believe

For many years, I lived a life of I should, I am expected to, and what others thought was right for me. I buried my truths and didn’t live authentically which really affected my belief in myself and my own worthiness. Have you ever felt this way?

Did you have big dreams for your life that you stopped dreaming because of messages given to you in your past by well intended people in your life? Did you then adopt those negative messages as your core beliefs? Those negative core beliefs may have shut down your hope of really having the life you desired. This is more common than you think..

*But… what if…. you decided to reclaim those dreams and bring them into your reality?

*What if…. you started claiming you own power?

*What if…. you found your voice and spoke up for what you wanted for your life?

*What if…. you dared to dream again and be, do, and have exactly what you are destined on this earth to become?

An exclusive online coaching service is available for you so you can do just that! From the privacy of your own home or office you can join me in a zoom meeting platform. Schedule times that fit your lifestyle! I will support, challenge, and cheer you on as you discover what is holding you back and how to get on your path of empowerment, abundance, and joy!

I have lived in Asheboro for the last 34 years. I have served children and families as a counselor in the school system, at Hospice, in Mental Health, and in a Private Practice. I am honored to have an opportunity to continue serving from my heart in this new capacity; as a Coach and Motivational/ Empowerment speaker!

Check it out! Schedule your complimentary coaching call with Midge today! 
I believe in you! 
Email me at: midge@empoweringawakenedhearts.com Subject Line: COACHING

Being Authentically Me

Midge’s Mumblings on Awakened Hearts: EVERY day is an opportunity to awaken the hearts of others when I speak my truth. When I live authentically… my authenticity draws others closer because they want that too. BE ME and that frees others to Be THEIR authentic self.

Midge’s Mumblings on Awakened Hearts: There is so much power in loving yourself. It buffers you from the judgements of others and reinforces your core worthiness; not your accomplishments.